Yesterday, we celebrated my grandma’s 91st birthday. We call grandma Wella. Wella is a pistol. She loves Jesus, her occasional sip of tequila and family. Wella has never been to a mastermind event or a personal development workshop. But with the wisdom she doles out, she’s a mastermind to me. 91 years of living teaches a thing or two.
Last night, Wella shared these five things with me. Between laughter and tears, I don’t think I’ll ever forget.
(Spanish translations noted below.)
1. “La gente mala tiene lenguas largas. Te quebran con sus palabras. No los dejes.” Bad people have long tongues. They will try to break you with their words. Don’t let them.
I feel this one loud and clear. It also reminds me of the other side of that coin, “Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don’t mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime.” -Rachel Wolchin
2. “Reza para illuminar tu calle.” Make time for prayer to illuminate your path.
Prayer, meditation, intention. Whatever you want to claim as your time in stillness – just do it. My grandmother told me to pray for myself. Pray for patience. Pray for one another. Holding good intentions will illuminate your own path.
3. “Quedate firme sobre tus ninos.” Be there and be strong for your children.
She told me you think your children will need you most when they are babies. That is not true. They will need you more later. Don’t miss the years when they need you most. Or they will need you longer.
4. “Los hombres que te ofrecen dinero y casas pero no su tiempo o respeto se pueden chingar.” The men that offer you money and houses but not their time and respect are the men you tell to go fuck themselves.
My grandmother became a widow at 52 with six surviving children. She said some men came along that tried to court her, offer her things and marry her. They wanted my grandmother, not the six kids. She told them to hit the road. She never remarried. She figured it out and made it work and managed to have all those children go to college. Wella don’t play.
5. “Cuida tu mariposa.” Take care of your butterfly.
That is grandma code for take care of your va-jay-jay. At my bachelorette party, she wouldn’t let me leave the house in a miniskirt. Not until I threw on some control top pantyhose to lock it down. Yes, people, grandma is 91 and she knows things. Best not to test her.
Happy Birthday to my Wella, our matriarch. She shines on us with attitude and spirit for days.